Leisha Hailey & Kate Moennig's new book is the ode to queer friendship we all deserve

Leisha Hailey and Kate Moennig's long-awaited joint memoir dropped this week, giving fans an even deeper look into a friendship that's spanned decades — and multiple iterations of The L Word.

Although So Gay For You isn't specifically a memoir about working on The L Word, it would have been impossible for the two not to have woven experiences they shared during the six seasons it was on air (plus another three for Generation Q) into their writing. Fans will undoubtedly appreciate both on and off-set anecdotes involving various cast members, like the one about the dryer fire in the home where Hailey and Mia Kirshner (who played Jenny Schecter) were living.

But, Moennig told The Advocate, "this isn't a book about gossip. This is not a tell-all. We're not interested in that."

Instead, the book's full title — So Gay for You: Friendship, Found Family, and the Show That Started It All — makes it clear to readers that this is the kind of memoir that drives home just how uplifting and important platonic relationships are within the queer community. And that's something Hailey and Moennig are more than qualified to write about.

"Leisha and I, we are our own selves, obviously," Moennig said. "But really, Leisha’s presence in my life really completes it. I don’t know what the colors in my life would look like without her. And that platonic love is incredibly powerful."

Of course, they both do end up dishing on their love lives as well. Particularly of note to longtime fans may be Hailey's relationship with fellow actress Kim Dickens. The two have been together since 2017, but Hailey has previously acknowledged that Dickens was actually her very first girlfriend back in her early 20s — even before she dated k.d. lang.

But at the heart of this story is the friendship Hailey and Moennig share, and the "parallel lives," as they call it, that led them to that point.

"[Platonic love] is what inspired this entire book," Hailey told The Advocate. "We know how important we are to each other. And we were like, This is such an important thing in queer culture. And we find each other for a reason. When it comes to this community, it means everything. It really is like, I’m not going to say life or death… but finding our people is everything."